1. INTRODUCTION
Time for tantra
Tantra sex is more satisfying
Sex is good: tantra is better
What is tantra?
Different types of tantra relationships
How to use this book
Singles, new relationships and established couples
2. THE TANTRIC ROOM
The physical room
The inner room
Time, desire and discipline
Sex and energy awareness
The tantric conversation
The triviality limit
The tantric work process
His, hers and their joint process
Appointments
Tantra diary
Sharing of experiences
3. GUIDANCE CONCERNING ENERGY WORK
Energy awareness
Meditation
Tantric exercises
Healing
Massage
Dreams
Sound
4. ATTRACTING A PARTNER FOR TANTRA
Preparation
Preliminary exercises
Changing attraction patterns
Where will you not compromise?
Exercise: Where will you not compromise?
Exercise: Attraction – meditation and healing
Exercise: Attraction
5. THE DESIRE AND THE POWER
When lack of sexual desire takes control
Sex and care nourish each other
The consequences of sexual hunger
Take what you want – and take it now
6. FROM TRADITIONAL LOVERS TO A TANTRIC RELATIONSHIP
Renew your relationship
A wake up call to reality
Vulnerable, but courageous
A personal account: from falling in love over emotional fights to tantra
Necessary and unnecessary suffering
Identifying without personal identification
Sexual projections
Greed and needs
To give each other freedom
Until our process us do part
A personal account: A married couple redefines their relationship
Exercise: Where are we right now?
Exercise: Yin-Yang
7. UNFOLDING THE FULL SEXUAL POTENTIAL
The cross structure of sexuality
Pornography and romance – the horizontal axis
Top and bottom – the vertical axis
A personal account: From monster viking to heart warrior
Sexual ignition
The deeper you go, the higher you come
Exercise: Back to back
8. THE PATH TO THE DEPTHS
To go downward
Come down with me
Kali – when the woman is at her best and her worst
A personal account: The proud nun
Exercise: Heart and earth point
9. TANTRIC SEX
Body meets body, heart meets heart and soul meets soul
Tantric intercourse
Tantra in three minutes – or three days
The importance of ejaculation and orgasm
Restrained ejaculation
What is good sex?
Sex as a way of letting go of mental structures
The body and etheric energy
Exercise: Tantric healing
Exercise: Circulation
Exercise: Where does the energy settle after sex?
10. POLARITY – DANCING WITH CONTRASTS
From old to new polarity
Sources of polarity
Polarizing, release and symbiosis
To be centered in one’s polarity
Cooperation and polarity
Know your polarity factor
Polarity plus equal rights makes equality
A personal account: Becoming a good man
Exercise: The gold snake dances with the silver snake
11. A BEAUTIFUL REPRESENTATIVE FOR ONE’S GENDER
To update the gender
A personal account: The femininity awakens
A representative for polarity, sexuality and love
Exercise: Learn from your own gender
Exercise: Learn from the opposite gender
12. DO WE MATCH?
Are we sexually compatible?
How is the polarity between us?
Is our relationship based on equality?
Do we both get our needs fulfilled in a reasonable manner?
Is there room for spirituality in our relationship?
Where do we meet in the vertical axis between top and bottom?
To meet in the chakras
When you meet in the chakras
When you do not meet in the chakras
Different examples of meetings
What do you need right now?
Exercise: Meeting points in the vertical axis
Exercise: Where do you need to meet?
Exercise: Sign of infinity connections
Exercise: Sound exercise
13. GOOD KARMA IN LOVE
Make an effort with your love
Falling in love, sexual greed and love itself
Personal and collective love
Exercise: Good karma in love
14. TANTRA BETWEEN TWO OF THE SAME SEX
The necessary meeting with the opposite sex
A personal account: Still lesbian – now also tantric
15. AGREEMENTS, CONTRACTS AND CEREMONIES
Agreements
A personal account: From lazy Sunday dates to vertical presence
Contracts
A personal account: A woman’s contract proposal to her coming partner
A personal account: A married couple’s tantra contract
Tantric weddings
A personal account: A tantric wedding
A tantric stag party
16. TANTRA, CHILDREN AND FAMILY LIFE
Children are not a hindrance for a spiritual process
The special about the ordinary
What children learn from their parents
Tantra gives energy to family life
A personal account: My family shows the way
Exercise: What did your parents teach you?
Exercise: What have you taught your children?
17. SEED, FLOWERING AND FRUIT – PHASES IN A TANTRIC RELATIONSHIP
Attraction
Beginning
Tasks
A personal account: A 35 year old teenager grows up
Ending the relationship
A personal account: A tantric divorce
Exercise: Attraction, beginning, problem solving and ending the relationship
The necessary tantra
LIST OF EXERCISES
EXPLANATION OF VOCABULARY
BOOKS, WORKSHOPS AND SUPERVISION
